The following are resources that we and our clients have found helpful. Many of the books can be ordered easily by clicking on the cover photograph.
Couples and Relationships
Dr. Sue Johnson, 2008. An excellent introduction to Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy.
Dr. Sue Johnson, 2013. The latest scientific research on how and why we love.
www.iceeft.com – The official website for Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy. Contains links to the scientific research on the efficacy of this therapy. University of Ottawa, Canada.
www.Gottman.com – The Gottman Institute is a great source of scientifically validated methods for improving your relationship.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.
Dr. John M. Gottman and Nan Silver, 1999.
Dr. John M. Gottman, 2002.
The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are.
Daniel Siegel, M.D., 2012.
Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness
Dr. Fred Luskin, 2003.
Forgiveness is a Choice: A Step-by-Step Process for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope.
Robert D. Enright, Ph.D., 2001.
Healing from an Affair
Dr. Janis Abrams Spring and Michael Spring, 2012.
“Not Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity.
Shirley P. Glass, PhD with Jean Coppock Staeheli, 2003.
Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On – Together or Apart
Douglas K. Snyder, Ph.D., Donald H. Baucom, Ph.D., and Kristina Koop Gordon, Ph.D., 2007.
How To Help Your Spouse Heal from an Affair: A Compact Manual for the Unfaithful
Linda J. MacDonald, MS, LMFT, 2010.
Patrick Carnes, Ph.D., 3rd Edition, 2001.
In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free from Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior
Patrick Carnes, Ph.D.; David L. Delmonico, Ph.D.; Elizabeth Griffin, M.A.; and Joseph M. Moriarty, 2nd Edition, 2007.
Prostate Cancer Support
www.UsToo.org – A wealth of information on all aspects of prostate cancer. This site is the host of the PCAI – prostate cancer and intimacy listserve. A very valuable resource.
Ralph and Barbara Alterowitz, 2004.
Making Love Again: Hope for Couples Facing Loss of Sexual Intimacy.
Virginia and Keith Laken, 2002.
Paul H. Lange, MD with Christine Adamec, 2003.
Saving Your Sex Life: A Guide for Men with Prostate Cancer.
John P. Mulhall, MD, 2008. Provides detailed, practical information by the director of the Sexual and Reproductive Medicine Program, Division of Urology, Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center.
By Lori Wilk Wife of Prostate Cancer Survivor.
Reclaiming Sex & Intimacy After Prostate Cancer Paperback – September 10, 2012
by Jeffrey Albaugh (Author), PhD (Author), APRN (Author), CUCNS (Author)
Depression, Anxiety, and other Mental Health Concerns
www.nimh.nih.gov – National Institute of Mental Health homepage, from which you can search for the topic of interest (depression, anxiety, panic attacks, etc.). This is a major clearinghouse of excellent information.
Dennis Greenberger and Christine Padesky, 1995. A practical introduction to cognitive behavioral therapy that you can use in conjunction with therapy and many people have used on their own.
Driven to Distraction: Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder From Childhood Through Adulthood.
Edward Hallowell. 1995. How to understand and manage adult ADD.
Sex on the Brain: 12 Lessons to Enhance Your Love Life.
Daniel G. Amen, M.D., 2008.
Anxiety and Phobia Workbook.
Edmund J. Bourne 4th Edition, 2005.
The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You.
Elaine N. Aron, 1999.
Wherever You Go, There You Are.
Jon Kabat-Zinn, 2005.
The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living.
Russ Harris, 2008
Managing Pain Before It Manages You.
Margaret A. Caudill, MD, PhD, MPH, 3rd Edition, 2009. Packed with important information and practical tips, by a pioneer in the holistic management of persistent pain.
Skills Training Manual for Treating Borderline Personality Disorder.
Marsha M. Linehan, Ph.D., 1993.
The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook: Practical Strategies for Living with Someone Who Has Borderline Personality Disorder.
Randi Kreger with James Paul Shirley, 2012.
Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation.
Daniel J. Siegel, MD, 2010.
24-Hour Crisis Line. Helpful for a Mental Health Crisis anytime of the day or night, for anyone in Maricopa County, Arizona. 602-222-9444 (or, toll free, 1-800-631-1314).
Emotional & Social Intelligence
Emotional Intelligence: 10th Anniversary Edition; Why It Matters More than IQ.
Daniel Goleman, 2006.
Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships.
Daniel Goleman, 2007.
Iron John: A Book About Men.
Robert Bly, 1990.
King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine.
Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette, 1990.
The Myth of Male Power: Why Men Are the Disposable Sex.
Warren Farrell, Ph.D., 1993.
The New Male Sexuality, Revised Edition.
Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D., 1999.
1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12.
5th Edition. Dr. Thomas W. Phelan, 2014.
Surviving Your Adolescents: How to Manage and Let Go Of Your 13-18 Year Olds.
2nd Edition. Dr. Thomas W. Phelan, 1998.
Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive.
Daniel Siegel, MD, and Mary Hartzell, 2003.
BUZZED: The Straight Facts about the Most Used and Abused Drugs from Alcohol to Ecstasy.
Revised Edition. Cynthia Kuhn, Ph.D., Scott Swartzwelder, Ph.D., Wilkie Wilson, Ph.D. ( Duke University Medical Center), Updated 4th Edition, 2014. An excellent source for the facts about drugs, without exaggeration or embellishment. It was written for college students and is suitable for ages 14 and above.
National Alcohol & Drug Abuse Hotline –1- 800-662-HELP.
Aging Well: Surprising Guideposts to a Happier Life from the Landmark Harvard Study of Adult Development.
George E. Vaillant, MD, 2002.
From AGE-ING to SAGE-ING: A Profound New Vision of Growing Older.
Zalman Schachter-Shalomi and Ronald S. Miller, 1995.
Other Links of Interest
Online articles about EFT
Dr. Sue Johnson’s 2-page summary of her book, Hold Me Tight: www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200812/hold-me-tight.
Videos about EFT and the power of emotions.
Brene Brown on the healing power of vulnerability and shame: www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability and www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame
Dr. Sue Johnson illustrates the first steps of the Emotionally Focused Therapy process: https://psychotherapy.net/video/emotionally-focused-couples-therapy
Dr. Sue Johnson talks about how the new science of love helps us create, nurture and protect our most precious relationships: http://www.holdmetight.net/video.php
To give us feedback on these or other resources, call 480-990-9128 (Sandy) or 602-538-9094 (Douglas).