Resources and Links

The following are resources that we and our clients have found helpful. Many of the books can be ordered easily by clicking on the cover photograph.

Couples and Relationships

Hold me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love.
Dr. Sue Johnson, 2008. An excellent introduction to Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy.
Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships.
Dr. Sue Johnson, 2013. The latest scientific research on how and why we love. – The official website for Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy. Contains links to the scientific research on the efficacy of this therapy. University of Ottawa, Canada. – The Gottman Institute is a great source of scientifically validated methods for improving your relationship.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.
Dr. John M. Gottman and Nan Silver, 1999.

Healing from an Affair

After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful.
Dr. Janis Abrams Spring and Michael Spring, 2012.

“Not Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity.
Shirley P. Glass, PhD with Jean Coppock Staeheli, 2003.

Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On – Together or Apart
Douglas K. Snyder, Ph.D., Donald H. Baucom, Ph.D., and Kristina Koop Gordon, Ph.D., 2007.

Sexual Addiction

Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction.
Patrick Carnes, Ph.D., 3rd Edition, 2001.

In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free from Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior
Patrick Carnes, Ph.D.; David L. Delmonico, Ph.D.; Elizabeth Griffin, M.A.; and Joseph M. Moriarty, 2nd Edition, 2007.

Prostate Cancer Support – A wealth of information on all aspects of prostate cancer. This site is the host of the PCAI – prostate cancer and intimacy listserve. A very valuable resource. – Cancer Support Community. In Phoenix. A great source of support for individuals with any form of cancer. All services are free.
Prostate Cancer for Dummies.
Paul H. Lange, MD with Christine Adamec, 2003.

Saving Your Sex Life: A Guide for Men with Prostate Cancer.
John P. Mulhall, MD, 2008. Provides detailed, practical information by the director of the Sexual and Reproductive Medicine Program, Division of Urology, Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center.

Reclaiming Sex & Intimacy After Prostate Cancer Paperback – September 10, 2012
by Jeffrey Albaugh (Author), PhD (Author), APRN (Author), CUCNS (Author)

Depression, Anxiety, and other Mental Health Concerns – National Institute of Mental Health homepage, from which you can search for the topic of interest (depression, anxiety, panic attacks, etc.). This is a major clearinghouse of excellent information. – A good source for scholarly information. Registration is required, but free. – A generally reliable but less regulated site for physical and mental health.
Mind over Mood: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think.
Dennis Greenberger and Christine Padesky, 1995. A practical introduction to cognitive behavioral therapy that you can use in conjunction with therapy and many people have used on their own.

Anxiety and Phobia Workbook.
Edmund J. Bourne 4th Edition, 2005.

Wherever You Go, There You Are.
Jon Kabat-Zinn, 2005.

Managing Pain Before It Manages You.
Margaret A. Caudill, MD, PhD, MPH, 3rd Edition, 2009. Packed with important information and practical tips, by a pioneer in the holistic management of persistent pain.

24-Hour Crisis Line. Helpful for a Mental Health Crisis anytime of the day or night, for anyone in Maricopa County, Arizona. 602-222-9444 (or, toll free, 1-800-631-1314).

24-Hour Hotline to find a domestic violence shelter. 602-263-8900 (or, toll free, 1-800-799-7739).
Community Information & Referral, 602-263-8856.

Emotional & Social Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence: 10th Anniversary Edition; Why It Matters More than IQ.
Daniel Goleman, 2006.

Men’s Issues

Iron John: A Book About Men.
Robert Bly, 1990.

The New Male Sexuality, Revised Edition.
Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D., 1999.


1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12.
5th Edition. Dr. Thomas W. Phelan, 2014.

Substance Abuse

BUZZED: The Straight Facts about the Most Used and Abused Drugs from Alcohol to Ecstasy.
Revised Edition. Cynthia Kuhn, Ph.D., Scott Swartzwelder, Ph.D., Wilkie Wilson, Ph.D. ( Duke University Medical Center), Updated 4th Edition, 2014. An excellent source for the facts about drugs, without exaggeration or embellishment. It was written for college students and is suitable for ages 14 and above.

Loosening the Grip: A Handbook of Alcohol Information.
11th Edition, Jean Kinney and Gwen Leaton, 2014.

National Alcohol & Drug Abuse Hotline –1- 800-662-HELP.

Successful Aging

Aging Well: Surprising Guideposts to a Happier Life from the Landmark Harvard Study of Adult Development.
George E. Vaillant, MD, 2002.

From AGE-ING to SAGE-ING: A Profound New Vision of Growing Older.
Zalman Schachter-Shalomi and Ronald S. Miller, 1995.

City of Phoenix Senior Services – 602-262-7379
24-hour help line for the Maricopa County office of the Area Agency on Aging – 602-264-4357. A central clearing house for resources for elders.

Other Links of Interest

Online articles about EFT
Dr. Sue Johnson’s 2-page summary of her book, Hold Me Tight:

Videos about EFT and the power of emotions.
Brene Brown on the healing power of vulnerability and shame: and

Dr. Sue Johnson illustrates the first steps of the Emotionally Focused Therapy process:

Dr. Sue Johnson talks about how the new science of love helps us create, nurture and protect our most precious relationships:

To give us feedback on these or other resources, call 480-990-9128 (Sandy) or 602-538-9094 (Douglas).